Tips on First Dating When You're Dating Someone You've Never Met
There are a lot of different ways to find eligible singles. But what should you think about when meeting someone for the first time? If you've ever wondered how to go on a blind date, there are a number of do's and don'ts that make the experience more fun and successful. With some pointers on what to say, where to go and how to relax him, your first date will be fun.
Read on for tips and techniques to make sure you get the best blind date possible.
Blind dates are tough. The biggest obstacle is that they may theoretically be blind, but before you even leave, you have a scenario in your mind. This may include how they look or act, how they react to how you look or act, how things work out, and your end result and exit strategy.
In fact, your extremely high blind date failure rate may be directly related to this completely counterproductive preconception...
Arrived on time
Arrive on time or a little early - to guarantee this, you need to check traffic info and plan your trip ahead of time. If you run into an unexpected problem, ask for a way to get in touch with them to let them know (perhaps through a mutual friend of yours).
Throw away all your expectations.
The fastest way to kill a blind date is to walk around expecting Brad Pitt and then feel nothing but disappointment when it's someone other than Brad Pitt (and I guarantee it will). Even if you had an amazing two-hour phone conversation and his online profile was written especially for you, don't expect Mr. Perfect. No one can live up to that. To make sure you don't remember too many dates, stay busy first. Also, I don't mean that you have to have low expectations—just that you don't. Fast! Think of something else.
Wake up and do something.
If the guy is disgusting, unattractive, and/or extremely unintelligent, try not to sit and stare. You will be glued to whatever is bothering you. Get up and engage him in whatever activity you enjoy—pick a song on the jukebox, play pool, order ice cream, go for a walk, or bet on the team playing at the TV bar. If you're having dinner, well… chew it quickly.
If you forget everything, remember to be hopeless and have an open mind. I always have fun when I date hopelessly. (No Hope in one handsome guy. A bottle of wine can't hurt.
Open up your mind
You can't know everything about a person up front, so don't be so quick to judge. Remember: chemicals grow; people will grow on you when you know them; and some people get nervous on dates. As long as you're not a total misanthrope, you're capable of enjoying almost any human being—you just need to keep an open mind.
Don't Put Too Much Pressure on Blind Dates
It's okay to be optimistic and hope for the best on a date, but having very high hopes can lead to disappointment. The best hope for a blind date is that you'll get to know someone new — you can worry about the rest later.
Just be yourself and be honest. A blind date isn't the time to go over someone's entire life history, but it can give you a good idea of what they might want in the future. Don't dwell on the small things and remember the big picture. You can always turn down your next date if you don't feel any chemistry whatsoever.
How Do You Say Hello On A Blind Date?
Remember that the people you meet will immediately form your image, they are looking at you straight away. So try to create a great first few seconds. It's actually easy to achieve and requires only the following ingredients:
1. A warm smile
2. Eye contact
3. Courteous verbal greetings ('Hi, I'm...nice to meet you)
4. Good posture (stand straight with shoulders back - if you are sitting when they arrive, stand up to greet them)
5. Powerful handshake
6. Good presentation (hair, dress and shoes)
Once you've established this initial greeting, you've got to get started, or you could end up with an awkward silence or a strange chatter. Which leads us to...
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